Why You Need To Celebrate Your Wins Even The Small Ones
Last week, I had one of those ‘aha’ moments. I was on the phone with someone who I was looking to do some mentoring with. We were chatting away and I was telling her all about my blog and what I had done this year.
She asked what I thought of what I had achieved and I uttered something like, ‘well, I’m really a little frustrated by my lack of progress’. She smiled and said, ‘have you actually taken a moment to look back on what you have achieved this year?’ Of course I hadn’t!!
It was then she started to list out everything, yet I was still focusing on what I hadn’t done or what hadn’t gone as well as I had hoped.
What I Did This Year
To be clear, this is what I had achieved this year:
- set up my own business (1st time ever)
- finished 5 chapters of the book I wanted to get published and sent them to 2 publishing agents (hugely nerve-wrecking for me)
- set up my blog (this warrants more than 1 line really due to the amount of work, effort and huge learning that has gone on)
- started out on social media after having a bit of a ‘really don’t like social media, trying to get my kids off tech’ attitude and now having to fully learn and embrace it
- began my strategy around approaching contributors to write amazing content for the blog. We have now set up a range of relationships with fantastic women
- started our interview series on the blog. So far we have talked to authors, industry leaders, female entrepreneurs, business coaches, bloggers…
- learnt about branding, SEO, WordPress themes….
And on top of all of the above, I have stepped out of my comfort zone a million times. Each time has been nerve-wrecking but rewarding in some way, whether it’s the realisation that I can actually do it or just the simple fact of learning something new.
Oh, and I managed to work (‘work-work’) between 2 and 4 days a week, look after the kids and in-laws, house and hubbie.
Looking back, no mean feat, right? Yet, I was still insistent on talking about the things that hadn’t done quite right or I somehow hadn’t managed to do.
Stop and Celebrate
Often we forget to look back at our achievements, we forget to celebrate and we move straight on to the next thing on our never ending to-do list.
In order to help build our self-confidence, we need time to reflect on what we achieve no matter how small. When we do this, we help to train our mind into believing that we are capable, experienced, awesome women.
Why Not Tackle 2018 In A Different Way
It’s coming to the end of the year and rather than make another list of goals you want to achieve in 2018, first start by listing the amazing things you have done this year. List everything, no matter how small.
Pause. Reflect. Smile. Bask in the glory for a little while – even if it’s just for 30 minutes. And promise yourself that you will keep doing this throughout 2018.